DAVID L. PRESENTS…
Blog Synopsis: A random and and unbiased perspective of what is relevant in the world today –as seen through the eyes of yours truly, David L. A blog not to be duplicated… but to be emulated. Because after all, groundbreaking material does not come around every day. NO structured thought scheme – just some occasional and unbiased HATE towards those that deserve it! One-on-one interviews to include abstract, unconventional questions with individuals of relevance. A Q&A with random readers with answers posted to include hints, tips and breakthrough marketing ideas into either getting into the industry of their choice – and/or surviving it! In conclusion – a breakthrough column for the ages… none before me. None after my departure. ‘Nuff said.
CAN I HIT IT IN THE MORNING?! Vol. II
(Who Controls The Relationship: Men Or Women?)
Intro
The Art of War is not just a well known and best-selling read – it’s a way of life amongst men and women everywhere… regardless of race, culture or creed. The art of war is simply put – psychological warfare with the primary intention of getting the most from the opposite sex (depending on your sexual preference). Contrary to popular belief, there are subtle nuances in the concept of “leaders were born to lead and followers were born to follow.” There is a “pecking order” of sorts in this game we call life. My sole objective is to prove once and for all – who is the ultimate “puppet master” in the murky waters of romance and relationship? Who is the true “big baller shot caller” and who indeed “runs the show”? Similar to the various forms of abuse, true power takes on a myriad of forms. Physical power is the ability to overpower your mate through physical coercion and/or downright bullying. Domination via presence and stature, most often accomplished by men. There is also mental power. The ability to outwit your mate. Cunning. Stealth. Wit. Psychological power perhaps? A possible raunchy videotape tucked away somewhere… only to be used at a later date? True “tongue skills” is not a reference to how well you can perform cunnilingus. On the contrary, it is your means to seduce with your words… and manipulate with precision and tact.
Control in a relationship is not etched in stone and power can (and more often than not) shift to the other party. To illustrate my point, the individual who asks for the date doesn’t always decide where the date will take place… or what time it will end. The illusion of control is diabolical in nature and lies dormant within the individual who uses it to the best of his or her ability. Ironically, the one in power may not even realize their true potential. Disclaimer: for all you relationship “purists” that are reading this and saying: relationships are about compromise and flexibility – well… I have three words for you: BLAH! BLAH! BLAH! Adjectives like compromise, flexibility and mutuality are contrived and exist only in family-themed television shows made even more popular from channels like Nick at Nite! It’s a façade. There is no mutuality. It only exists in the minds of those that would love to live life with that commonality of achieving it one day.
Reader’s Thoughts:
“Women ultimately control the relationship. While the man may take the lead and be the dominant player, it’s the woman who holds down the relationship.” --- T Pretty Lady
“Women run things. Men no longer wish to wear the pants. They wait for the woman to do everything and act surprised when women turn to other women.” --- Anjela Day
“Men lead because the world says so. It’s natural to let a man lead his family, household, and especially his woman.” --- Author Veronica Blackbeauty
“Women control the relationship mentally and physically. Some women use mind games and some use pu**y control.” --- Anonymous
“Women control the relationship. The man is the head and the woman is the neck that controls the head (only a strong woman can control without belittling her man.)” --- Elayne Brinson
“Women control the relationship. We are attracted to their beauty and we build on that. We fall in love with their heart and continue to love them because of the person they truly are. We go thru with the wedding to please them. They plan the wedding. We as men just want peace, sex and knowing our woman care and appreciate us.” --- Darrell Freeman Jr.
“Women because men are weak when it comes to being in a relationship. The power of the pu**y keeps them powerless and timid – especially if it’s good!” --- Rochelle Allen-Woods
“The man. He is the natural hunter, provider and protector of the household. It’s in the woman’s nature to follow the lead of her man.” --- Author Nah’Sun
“Historically the assumption has always been the man but by seeing the innate resilience of women of all races, I feel women more times than not control the relationship.” --- Kevin Chase
“In the beginning, men naturally lead, but later down the line, the roles switch. Woman are the drive behind why men get up and out on their grind. Women control the sex and when and if kids get involved.” --- Auntie Joy
Alas, we’ve reached that time in which I provide you with my long-awaited answer to the million dollar question – and the point of this article in the first place. The answer which connects the dots typical, everyday relationship between men and women. Remember folks – this is bigger than all of us. Bigger than your well-meaning aspirations of equality and compromise. It’s about who comes out on top in an argument, who comes out on top in the judicial system (divorce, alimony, child support, custody, etc). This is about who comes out on top in the execution of the initial and subsequent date, sexual intimacy and quite possibly one day, marriage.
Drumroll please…
The WOMAN wins – hands down! This is a no brainer people and only those of you who actually think you learned something new from Steve Harvey’s infantile rants on the alleged “book” he wrote should be in for a surprise. Let’s use the aforementioned examples: women will always win in an argument. That’s a game of verbal warfare we as men do not stand a chance on winning. Women are meticulous creatures that will dissect everything we say and regurgitate back towards us. And we will be frozen in place – unable to provide any meaningful response. Women will always win in a court of law. Do I even need to elaborate? The motto “it’s cheaper to keep her” has been conceived from this notion. And sex – FORGET ABOUT IT! Next to money, sex is the world’s oldest, most lucrative and effective weapon towards the male species. Wars have been born because of the power of the pu**y and the mind control it has inflicted upon men. Marriages have been dissolved because of it… and lives have been irrevocably ruined over it.
This has been my public service announcement and until next time…
STAY TUNED for upcoming installments of “CAN I HIT IT IN THE MORNING?!”
I welcome all feedback… illogical or otherwise. Get at me.
Oh yeah – shout out to the homey, Aaron Bebo who previously posted something similar on his Facebook page and blessed me with the “respect” to put my own personal touch to this topic. Peace bro…
David L. is the award-winning author & publisher of 4 novels: Over Your Dead Body, My Life Is A Movie, Chalk Outline Confessions: The Remix & Represent. All are available for purchase on his official author website at: www.totalpackagepublications.com, and via E-book (Kindle & Nook). Email David L. at: contacttpp@totalpackagepublications.com. Follow David L. on Twitter at: www.twitter.com/almightydavidl; and on Facebook at: www.facebook.com/theauthordavidl and on Instagram at: Almightydavidl.
Monday, May 6, 2013
Monday, November 5, 2012
Can I Hit It In The Morning?!
DAVID L. PRESENTS…
CAN I HIT IT IN THE MORNING?!
Before we proceed any further, I’m sure you like the millions of others reading this article (yeah I said it – MILLIONS!) are wondering: why did David L. name this particular article “Can I Hit It In The Morning?!” And more importantly – what exactly is “IT?!” Unlike my cover story with Zab Judah from Urban Grapevine’s classic last issue, I decided to venture off in a different direction and give everyone my perspective on what it takes to earn another “shot” at “IT!” For anyone still living in the 19th century, “IT” refers to whether a man is deemed worthy of a second date and/or “booty call” and for all you females, it refers to whether or not you are deemed acceptable in your potential mate’s eyes on getting that much-desired return phone call. For added measure and to convey validity into my inconsequential rhetoric, I am including 2 case scenarios (1 male & 1 female) to illustrate whether or not the below individuals can indeed hit “IT” again in the future. My below case scenarios have been randomly selected by two Facebook individuals (one male, one female to convey unbiased fairness) who left me inbox messages on why they were unable to “HIT IT” again from a potential mate. It’s about to get interesting to say the least. Read on…
Case Scenario # 1:
What up David L. Thanks for making me one of your choices for the article you are writing. I had this “dime piece” sweat me for about a year and a half at this customer service job we both had out in the city (NYC). I mean, she would bring me leftovers from home so I didn’t have to spend my hard earned money on lunch; she stayed lacing me with little gifts from time to time, and on occasion, hooked me up with a free ride home with her metro card whenever her husband picked her up from work. To make a long story short, we eventually “hooked up” one weekend about four months ago. Her and her spouse has a time share or something out in Long Island so I “creeped through” to the spot with her one weekend while her husband was out of town on some business trip or whatever. We had it planned out to perfection. The day before, I called out from work so I could prepare accordingly for the weekend. I purchased a couple bottles of white Zinfandel Moscato (her favorite), and a bottle of Hennessey for myself. I got myself a fresh shape-up (haircut), mani-pedi, and purchased a few of them “pills” (stuff to keep you erect) so I could “smash” (hit it) all weekend long. Now unless I’m missing something, the weekend went as expected and we had a great time. I “smashed” at least a good dozen times that weekend. While we were there, I took her on a horse & carriage ride, took her to some club to go dancing, and spent about $90 at some swanky restaurant near where we stayed at. We went our separate ways Sunday evening and when I saw her again the next morning at work; it was as if I was the elephant man! No more special treatment, no phone calls to see what I was doing for lunch. Nada! Matter of fact, I haven’t gotten the occasional metro card that I’ve grown to love before our little “rendezvous”! I wanna think I handled my business in the bedroom. Explain that for me homey.
Mark G., Queens, NY
First of all my dude: what the hell is a “mani-pedi”??!! Is that short for manicure/pedicure?! I don’t know any man that would willingly admit to that in the first place! It’s not that you went out and got one, it’s just you could’ve left that out. I didn’t need to read about that bro! You are really making me think you bite pillows right about now so let’s just gloss over this minor indiscretion and move on to the next subject at hand… this is a classic case of “Boomerang” (from the Eddie Murphy movie. For those of you who never saw it – go out and rent it now!) Yo dog – she is married! Why are you “wifeing” this broad up with horse & carriage rides when that is clearly her husband’s job (who for the record was probably “smashing” his own “shortie” somewhere instead of being on some alleged business trip!) Another thing that stands out in your letter is the fact that you think she owes you something the day after! My dude – men have been treating women like this for centuries! So now your feelings are hurt because you got the “okey doke” (got played)? You said you hit it about a dozen times that weekend – right! So it’s another notch in your belt. And for an added bonus, she is already wifed up, so you don’t have to worry about her catching any feelings (although something tells me you might have!) Something also tells me she did the “okey doke” on her husband ‘cause she knows he is a cheatin’ bastard and she figured she would get herself some busta (clown) and unfortunately, that busta ended up being you! All in all… a win is a win (Guy code!)
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Case Scenario # 2:
Hey David L., thanks for hearing me out on this. I hooked up with this sorry a** dog that I met in a club back in June of this year. He pursued me for most of the night, asking me if I wanted to dance on at least 3 separate occasions before I gave in to his requests. I was with my road dawg (homegirl) and he was with one of his boys. He wasn’t someone I would normally talk to because I felt he was too short for my tastes. And to top it off – he had on one of the loudest (colorful) suits I’ve ever seen in my life. I’m more of a simple chick. Blue jeans and wife beater type of guy. This he definitely was not. The club thing was cool and after the dance I promised him, we parted ways, but not before he asked me for my phone number. Miraculously, I gave it to him. I think it was the alcohol talking! Either way, he called me the next morning to make sure I got in safely and we arranged to see each other the following weekend. He showed up to my brownstone early and we ended up going to the movies, followed by dinner and a club out in Harlem. He was definitely a charmer and before I know it, we were back at my place kissing and feeling one another up. Within moments, we ended up having sex in my living room. I was hesitant at first, but I didn’t have any good sex in a long time so against my better judgment, we got down to business). I never heard from him again! And this was over two months ago!! I never saved his number so I can’t even call him to see what happened or if it was something that I did or said that offended him. Do you think I did something wrong? Or am I just an unfortunate victim of the ol’ “hit and run” that you guys live for? Talk to me.
Lashonda S., Brooklyn, NY
I will begin from your last question and work my way backwards… YES – you were a victim of the “ol hit and run”! But you are incorrect in your assessment of “us guy’s” living for it. In your statement, you’ve already generalized every man on the planet and that is straight up unfair (although saying most men would be a better response that I couldn’t argue with!) The only “wrong” thing you did was mis-judge his relentlessness. You began by stating that “he pursued me for the majority of the night”. That alone tells me that he is a predator who will not stop until he gets what he wants (an admirable trait I must say). The “loudness” in his suit tells me he likes attention and secondly, may be overcompensating for something. Either that or he comes from the south! You reference him in being short so I’m inclined to believe my first statement about him overcompensating for something is more applicable here. I’m also going out on a limb by stating you probably gave up the a** waaay too soon. I mean milk lasts longer in the fridge than the time it took for you to drop your drawers! Not that there is anything wrong with waiting, but sometimes it can work against you (like in this case). Yes – it is a double standard, but it’s one that is still alive and well. You stating you never saved his phone number leads me to believe you weren’t all that serious anyway. And I wish y’all women would stop using liquor as a mask towards your promiscuity. You wanted some a** and you got yourself some… so live with your decision and move on ya little tramp (just kidding!) P.S.: and stop referencing men as sorry a** dogs. Cause guess what: you slept with one – so what does that make you? Ever hear the ol’ saying of you are what you eat… well you are also unfortunately a reflection of who you lay down with (Real talk. Don’t judge me!)
Conclusion:
The previous two case scenarios eloquently illustrates my initial premise in the art of “hitting it”, “getting the drawers”, “smashing it”, or whatever the hell you want to call it. In case scenario #1 (Mark), he underestimated a woman’s cunning and need for love and affection. Although he was able to give that to her for their impromptu weekend together (allegedly), he neglected to accurately measure the importance that her husband plays in her life. Yes – her husband! He ignored industry rule # 27 (Section 3, paragraph 4) which reads: “NEVER CATCH FEELINGS. ESPECIALLY WHEN THE ONE YOU ARE WITH ALREADY HAS A PARTNER! Hopefully this poor sucka won’t take this rule for granted ever again. Something tells me he will ‘cause he goes out in public and gets “mani-pedis”! In case scenario #2 (Lashonda), she neglected to take her partner’s assertiveness and borderline pathological pursuit of punanny (I call it the “3 P’s!) serious. This guy was (and is) a prime example of what it means to go out and get what you want. And after all – isn’t that the American dream?! HEY MY READERS OUT THERE -DON’T HATE THE PLAYER PEOPLE…. HATE THE GAME!
This “game” as we know it is a game of war. Don’t minimize it for anything less. If the game is played correctly, you will reap unimaginable rewards for your hard work and diligence. But if you underestimate it’s potential for payback, you’re a** will be a re-occuring case example like the ones above. Don’t say I didn’t warn you!
David L.’s final comments: This article is in loving memory of my brother from another mother, “Dre 5000” who passed away prematurely a couple of years ago. Shortly before his passing, my boy aptly titled a future book of mine (that will eventually be my first leap into non-fiction books) with the title for this article. So for that – this article is dedicated to you homey. Never 4gotten. Always remembered.
***
David L. is the award-winning author & publisher of 4 novels: Over Your Dead Body, My Life Is A Movie, Chalk Outline Confessions: The Remix & Represent. All are available for purchase on his official author website at: www.totalpackagepublications.com, via E-book (Kindle & Nook) and select bookstores everywhere. Email David L. at: contacttpp@totalpackagepublications.com. Follow David L. on Twitter at: www.twitter.com/almightydavidl; and on Facebook at: www.facebook.com/theauthordavidl.
CAN I HIT IT IN THE MORNING?!
Before we proceed any further, I’m sure you like the millions of others reading this article (yeah I said it – MILLIONS!) are wondering: why did David L. name this particular article “Can I Hit It In The Morning?!” And more importantly – what exactly is “IT?!” Unlike my cover story with Zab Judah from Urban Grapevine’s classic last issue, I decided to venture off in a different direction and give everyone my perspective on what it takes to earn another “shot” at “IT!” For anyone still living in the 19th century, “IT” refers to whether a man is deemed worthy of a second date and/or “booty call” and for all you females, it refers to whether or not you are deemed acceptable in your potential mate’s eyes on getting that much-desired return phone call. For added measure and to convey validity into my inconsequential rhetoric, I am including 2 case scenarios (1 male & 1 female) to illustrate whether or not the below individuals can indeed hit “IT” again in the future. My below case scenarios have been randomly selected by two Facebook individuals (one male, one female to convey unbiased fairness) who left me inbox messages on why they were unable to “HIT IT” again from a potential mate. It’s about to get interesting to say the least. Read on…
Case Scenario # 1:
What up David L. Thanks for making me one of your choices for the article you are writing. I had this “dime piece” sweat me for about a year and a half at this customer service job we both had out in the city (NYC). I mean, she would bring me leftovers from home so I didn’t have to spend my hard earned money on lunch; she stayed lacing me with little gifts from time to time, and on occasion, hooked me up with a free ride home with her metro card whenever her husband picked her up from work. To make a long story short, we eventually “hooked up” one weekend about four months ago. Her and her spouse has a time share or something out in Long Island so I “creeped through” to the spot with her one weekend while her husband was out of town on some business trip or whatever. We had it planned out to perfection. The day before, I called out from work so I could prepare accordingly for the weekend. I purchased a couple bottles of white Zinfandel Moscato (her favorite), and a bottle of Hennessey for myself. I got myself a fresh shape-up (haircut), mani-pedi, and purchased a few of them “pills” (stuff to keep you erect) so I could “smash” (hit it) all weekend long. Now unless I’m missing something, the weekend went as expected and we had a great time. I “smashed” at least a good dozen times that weekend. While we were there, I took her on a horse & carriage ride, took her to some club to go dancing, and spent about $90 at some swanky restaurant near where we stayed at. We went our separate ways Sunday evening and when I saw her again the next morning at work; it was as if I was the elephant man! No more special treatment, no phone calls to see what I was doing for lunch. Nada! Matter of fact, I haven’t gotten the occasional metro card that I’ve grown to love before our little “rendezvous”! I wanna think I handled my business in the bedroom. Explain that for me homey.
Mark G., Queens, NY
First of all my dude: what the hell is a “mani-pedi”??!! Is that short for manicure/pedicure?! I don’t know any man that would willingly admit to that in the first place! It’s not that you went out and got one, it’s just you could’ve left that out. I didn’t need to read about that bro! You are really making me think you bite pillows right about now so let’s just gloss over this minor indiscretion and move on to the next subject at hand… this is a classic case of “Boomerang” (from the Eddie Murphy movie. For those of you who never saw it – go out and rent it now!) Yo dog – she is married! Why are you “wifeing” this broad up with horse & carriage rides when that is clearly her husband’s job (who for the record was probably “smashing” his own “shortie” somewhere instead of being on some alleged business trip!) Another thing that stands out in your letter is the fact that you think she owes you something the day after! My dude – men have been treating women like this for centuries! So now your feelings are hurt because you got the “okey doke” (got played)? You said you hit it about a dozen times that weekend – right! So it’s another notch in your belt. And for an added bonus, she is already wifed up, so you don’t have to worry about her catching any feelings (although something tells me you might have!) Something also tells me she did the “okey doke” on her husband ‘cause she knows he is a cheatin’ bastard and she figured she would get herself some busta (clown) and unfortunately, that busta ended up being you! All in all… a win is a win (Guy code!)
***
Case Scenario # 2:
Hey David L., thanks for hearing me out on this. I hooked up with this sorry a** dog that I met in a club back in June of this year. He pursued me for most of the night, asking me if I wanted to dance on at least 3 separate occasions before I gave in to his requests. I was with my road dawg (homegirl) and he was with one of his boys. He wasn’t someone I would normally talk to because I felt he was too short for my tastes. And to top it off – he had on one of the loudest (colorful) suits I’ve ever seen in my life. I’m more of a simple chick. Blue jeans and wife beater type of guy. This he definitely was not. The club thing was cool and after the dance I promised him, we parted ways, but not before he asked me for my phone number. Miraculously, I gave it to him. I think it was the alcohol talking! Either way, he called me the next morning to make sure I got in safely and we arranged to see each other the following weekend. He showed up to my brownstone early and we ended up going to the movies, followed by dinner and a club out in Harlem. He was definitely a charmer and before I know it, we were back at my place kissing and feeling one another up. Within moments, we ended up having sex in my living room. I was hesitant at first, but I didn’t have any good sex in a long time so against my better judgment, we got down to business). I never heard from him again! And this was over two months ago!! I never saved his number so I can’t even call him to see what happened or if it was something that I did or said that offended him. Do you think I did something wrong? Or am I just an unfortunate victim of the ol’ “hit and run” that you guys live for? Talk to me.
Lashonda S., Brooklyn, NY
I will begin from your last question and work my way backwards… YES – you were a victim of the “ol hit and run”! But you are incorrect in your assessment of “us guy’s” living for it. In your statement, you’ve already generalized every man on the planet and that is straight up unfair (although saying most men would be a better response that I couldn’t argue with!) The only “wrong” thing you did was mis-judge his relentlessness. You began by stating that “he pursued me for the majority of the night”. That alone tells me that he is a predator who will not stop until he gets what he wants (an admirable trait I must say). The “loudness” in his suit tells me he likes attention and secondly, may be overcompensating for something. Either that or he comes from the south! You reference him in being short so I’m inclined to believe my first statement about him overcompensating for something is more applicable here. I’m also going out on a limb by stating you probably gave up the a** waaay too soon. I mean milk lasts longer in the fridge than the time it took for you to drop your drawers! Not that there is anything wrong with waiting, but sometimes it can work against you (like in this case). Yes – it is a double standard, but it’s one that is still alive and well. You stating you never saved his phone number leads me to believe you weren’t all that serious anyway. And I wish y’all women would stop using liquor as a mask towards your promiscuity. You wanted some a** and you got yourself some… so live with your decision and move on ya little tramp (just kidding!) P.S.: and stop referencing men as sorry a** dogs. Cause guess what: you slept with one – so what does that make you? Ever hear the ol’ saying of you are what you eat… well you are also unfortunately a reflection of who you lay down with (Real talk. Don’t judge me!)
Conclusion:
The previous two case scenarios eloquently illustrates my initial premise in the art of “hitting it”, “getting the drawers”, “smashing it”, or whatever the hell you want to call it. In case scenario #1 (Mark), he underestimated a woman’s cunning and need for love and affection. Although he was able to give that to her for their impromptu weekend together (allegedly), he neglected to accurately measure the importance that her husband plays in her life. Yes – her husband! He ignored industry rule # 27 (Section 3, paragraph 4) which reads: “NEVER CATCH FEELINGS. ESPECIALLY WHEN THE ONE YOU ARE WITH ALREADY HAS A PARTNER! Hopefully this poor sucka won’t take this rule for granted ever again. Something tells me he will ‘cause he goes out in public and gets “mani-pedis”! In case scenario #2 (Lashonda), she neglected to take her partner’s assertiveness and borderline pathological pursuit of punanny (I call it the “3 P’s!) serious. This guy was (and is) a prime example of what it means to go out and get what you want. And after all – isn’t that the American dream?! HEY MY READERS OUT THERE -DON’T HATE THE PLAYER PEOPLE…. HATE THE GAME!
This “game” as we know it is a game of war. Don’t minimize it for anything less. If the game is played correctly, you will reap unimaginable rewards for your hard work and diligence. But if you underestimate it’s potential for payback, you’re a** will be a re-occuring case example like the ones above. Don’t say I didn’t warn you!
David L.’s final comments: This article is in loving memory of my brother from another mother, “Dre 5000” who passed away prematurely a couple of years ago. Shortly before his passing, my boy aptly titled a future book of mine (that will eventually be my first leap into non-fiction books) with the title for this article. So for that – this article is dedicated to you homey. Never 4gotten. Always remembered.
***
David L. is the award-winning author & publisher of 4 novels: Over Your Dead Body, My Life Is A Movie, Chalk Outline Confessions: The Remix & Represent. All are available for purchase on his official author website at: www.totalpackagepublications.com, via E-book (Kindle & Nook) and select bookstores everywhere. Email David L. at: contacttpp@totalpackagepublications.com. Follow David L. on Twitter at: www.twitter.com/almightydavidl; and on Facebook at: www.facebook.com/theauthordavidl.
Monday, October 8, 2012
DJ Gatsby Bookclub Interview
Check out my latest interview... and all comments are encouraged afterwards...
http://djgatsbybookclub.wordpress.com/2012/10/08/djgbc-interview-author-david-l-represent/
Thursday, October 4, 2012
David L. Interviews... Zab Judah For Urban Grapevine Magazine
Interview with Zab Judah – Friday June 15th, 2012 Don’t Call It A Comeback! By: David L.
“YOU JUST GOT KNOCKED THE F**K OUT!”
That might have been the classic line from the blockbuster smash hit, Friday starring Ice Cube and Chris Tucker, however, this may have very well been what has been going through the mind of Zab “Super” Judah since the time he began taking boxing seriously. Why? Because this man has been knocking out men throughout boxing rings across the globe for years… after years… after years (you get my point.) You say you don’t know who Zab Judah is? Then you’ve left me no choice but to come to one of two conclusions: 1) you’ve been living in a cave for the better part of the turn of the century or 2) you have the sports knowledge of a fruit fly with its wings cut off (yeah – I said it!) Either way, let me rectify the situation: Zab Judah (hereafter to be referred to as simply “Zab”) was born October 27TH and began boxing at the tender age of six years old. Hailing from Brooklyn, NY, he is presently 34 years old (you figure out his year of birth) and has compiled an impressive amateur record of 110-5. His professional debut was on September 20th, 1996, defeating Michael Johnson by technical knock out (TKO) in the 2nd round. Since that time, Zab has won an astounding 5 world titles between the weight classes of Welterweight, Light Welterweight and Junior Middleweight divisions. Did I mention he is a former undisputed World Welterweight Champion OF THE WORLD?!?! He aptly secured this amazing feat by knocking out the formidable former champion Cory Spinks. That being said – it’s on this rare occasion that I was able to slow Zab down enough to secure this interview and share it with you - the fortunate readers and supporters that have held him down since his rise to fame, notoriety and quite possibly – a return to world domination..
Zab is presently in Vegas training for his next knockout win so catching up with him was a feat all in itself. For those that don’t yet comprehend the magnitude of what I just wrote – allow me to repeat myself: I was able to get the man slash iconic boxing legend, “Super” Judah on the phone to chop it up with me for several minutes, albeit his verrrrry busy schedule in order to secure the cover story for none other than the soon to be worldwide (drum roll please…) Grapevine Magazine! Real recognize real and being that Zab also represents the planet of Brooklyn much like myself, I knew I had to crank out a metaphorical “homerun” exclusive interview to the readers in order to land the cover story!
Prelude to the interview… Allow me to paint the proverbial picture of what almost never transpired:
Me: “So Ms. Davina Perez (Zab’s publicist of Venus Management Company), do you think Zab will allow me to interview him for this up-and-coming magazine? I think he would be the perfect individual to put it on the map. He is a stand up guy in the community and that is exactly what this magazine is looking for in its subject matter and overall storyline. I can promise you nothing but integrity and I won’t “sneak attack” him with any questions that will damage his rep or clown him in any type of way.”
Davina: “Lemme see. He’s got a fight coming up and he’s out in Vegas right now training for it.”
Me: “Well, I appreciate whatever you can make happen. See what you can do. If you could just give me about 10-15 minutes of his time… I promise the interview will be nothing but classy.”
Davina: “I won’t make any promises. I’ll get back to you.” Now most of the time when someone says, “I’ll get back to you”, you’re most often already doomed from the start. But I wasn’t talking to just anybody. From the initial conversation, I was able to detect the level of class that makes up the camp of Zab Judah. Ms. Perez reminded me that he was in the West Coast and to call him at exactly 4pm (EST). A couple of hours went by and I was again contacted by his publicist: “David, are you there.”
Me: “I’m here.” Ms. Perez again asked the question. But not to me.: “Zab – are you there?” JACKPOT! I immediately recognized his voice from several years ago (I reminded Zab that I previously met him at a celebrity sponsorship event that him and I was hosting at The Salvation Army in NYC). I immediately thanked him for taking the time to do this interview with me and promised that my line of questioning would not infringe on his privacy or go on for too long so that he could immediately get back to his upcoming fight. Instead, I subtly requested that we continue part 2 of this interview at a later date upon his return to Brooklyn which Zab graciously accepted.
THE INTERVIEW… David L.
(DL): Do you have a preference in your fighting weight?
Zab Judah (ZJ): Nahh, no preference. Hmmm… I guess if I did, it would be Junior Welterweight. I began my career at this weight and won the majority of my titles at this weight. But overall – it don’t really matter to me. Proper training takes precedence over everything so more than anything else, I stay on top of my training habits and how I take care of my body. I can fight comfortably at any weight.
DL: What is your most memorable fight? Why?
ZJ: Probably winning the undisputed Welterweight title in St. Louis when I beat Cory Spinks. That was a special moment for me. I mean I was young, raw, you know? Yeah – that was probably the fight that stands out most for me. Every fight is special in its own way, but that one got me to where I am today.
DL: Any pre-fight rituals? Superstitions? You know how some athletes might have to wear a pair of lucky socks or something? Or they may have a favorite pre-game meal? Wassup with you?
ZJ: No rituals. No superstitions. I just say my prayer to the Lord Saviour, Jesus Christ – that’s all. As long as I have Christ in my life, everything works itself out. I’ve never been a big believer in superstitions or any thing like that. I’m very confident before I walk into a boxing ring because I train my body so hard. I feel that as long as I train hard, everything will go in my direction. I’m focused. I go out there in the ring and let my hard work do the talking for me. That’s why I don’t get into the whole “superstitious” thing. For me – nothing but hard work and practice. That’s my ritual!
DL: What would the casual fan be surprised about you? Gimme something that you can give the reader into the private life of Zab Judah. Something most people have no idea about you.
ZJ: (Thinks for a moment…) I would say the casual fan would be surprised that I ride dirt bikes. Love them! Yeah that’s what I love doing during my off time. Right now it’s about my upcoming fight, but when I have that down time, I ride.
DL: With respect to Father’s Day, how do you spend time with your kids and family? And does your hectic training schedule get in the way?
ZJ: Well you know none of that even matters cause anyone that knows me knows that my family travels EVERYWHERE with me! I don’t travel without my family! They’re at EVERY fight! I’m big on education and I have a daughter graduating from High School so I have to be mindful of the fact that school is priority. Where ever I train and fight, they are all nearby.
DL: What is your favorite location to fight at? Why?
ZJ: I don’t really have a favorite location. I can fight anywhere. No pressure whatsoever! It doesn’t even matter at the end of the day. I can fight in St. Louis, matter of fact – that’s one of my favorite places just because I’m like a hometown hero there as well! I can fight in front of my own hometown in Brooklyn to Vegas to wherever. Matter of fact, they are soon doing something in Brooklyn (Barclay Center) so look for me there as well.
DL: Upcoming events? Final thoughts?
ZJ: I had an organization previously called Fight For Life, in which I sponsored several holiday events for kids and I mentored them about accomplishing their goals and staying out of trouble. I am very proud of a program I’m involved in presently through my foundation. It’s an anti-bullying program through my Zab Judah Cares foundation in which I educate the youth on bullying awareness and how to prevent bullying in the school system. This organization focuses on helping children see the dangers of bullying and my goal is to teach children to become friendlier with one another and improve their socialization skills. You know – bullying is a serious topic right now. We are doing a five city tour in the near future in Minnesota, Ft. Worth, TX, Dallas, TX and Detroit just to name some of the cities. My overall goal is to make kids know that there is someone out here that cares about them because I was bullied as a youngster and I understand how it feels to be bullied. Yeah – big things are happening right now.
Post Interview: Zab continues to use boxing as a tool for kids and young adults to stay out of trouble in the streets of Brooklyn as he himself did when he was younger. Zab back in the day would often go to the local gym with his mother and father, both former martial arts champions in their own right. Both parents continue to play pivotal roles in Zab’s career and even to this day, he looks to them for guidance and direction. The family believed that if they trained all of their children from a young age, they would become champions in the ring… and in life – and it paid off. Zab’s present foundation, Zab Judah Cares focus is to mentor young children and teach them that bullying is not a nice way to treat peers and that bullying can eventually lead to the bullied child to feeling helpless, intimidated, and possibly even leading to suicide.
Zab plans to set up a hotline for kids to contact him and his organization if they are feeling intimidated and helpless and needs someone to talk to and he will also be available to come out to different schools and organizations to discuss “bullying and its negative effects” on all young people. Zab recently visited Moscow, Russia and met with the President. He was treated very well and was impressed with what they had to offer and the great fighters that inhabit the country. Zab was told by the President of Russia he was welcomed back at any time as he continues to develop his international relationships in the boxing industry because he wants to acknowledge the skills of boxers in America and internationally abroad. This will undoubtedly bring him one step closer to becoming the global icon he looks forward to becoming down the stretch of his career. Presently, Zab will be making his acting debut in a movie called “The Obama Effect” because of its interesting premise (more on that at a later time). The movie features such prominent actors such as Charles S. Dutton, Meagan Good, Vanessa Bell Calloway, Emilio Rivera and Katt Williams.
You can log onto Youtube to check out the trailer of “The Obama Effect”. Also check out Judah Bros. Boxing gym in Brooklyn at 400 Liberty Avenue where Zab’s father, Yoel trains young men and women to become future champions and where Zab trains when he is in New York. I promised Zab I would keep our first interview (of a future part 2 series) short and informal so as to not put any damper on his present training regimen, but trust – I will put it down even that much more when we follow up in the near future. For now – enjoy the proverbial “appetizer” and get ready for the best to come… and remember: Men lie. Women lie. Great interviews speak 4 themselves! Nuff said.
Follow David L. on Twitter at: @almightydavidl
David L. is also the author of Over Your Dead Body, My Life Is A Movie, Chalk Outline Confessions: The Remix & Represent. All David L. titles can be purchased via his website at: www.totalpackagepublications.com. All David L. titles are also available via Kindle & Nook
“YOU JUST GOT KNOCKED THE F**K OUT!”
That might have been the classic line from the blockbuster smash hit, Friday starring Ice Cube and Chris Tucker, however, this may have very well been what has been going through the mind of Zab “Super” Judah since the time he began taking boxing seriously. Why? Because this man has been knocking out men throughout boxing rings across the globe for years… after years… after years (you get my point.) You say you don’t know who Zab Judah is? Then you’ve left me no choice but to come to one of two conclusions: 1) you’ve been living in a cave for the better part of the turn of the century or 2) you have the sports knowledge of a fruit fly with its wings cut off (yeah – I said it!) Either way, let me rectify the situation: Zab Judah (hereafter to be referred to as simply “Zab”) was born October 27TH and began boxing at the tender age of six years old. Hailing from Brooklyn, NY, he is presently 34 years old (you figure out his year of birth) and has compiled an impressive amateur record of 110-5. His professional debut was on September 20th, 1996, defeating Michael Johnson by technical knock out (TKO) in the 2nd round. Since that time, Zab has won an astounding 5 world titles between the weight classes of Welterweight, Light Welterweight and Junior Middleweight divisions. Did I mention he is a former undisputed World Welterweight Champion OF THE WORLD?!?! He aptly secured this amazing feat by knocking out the formidable former champion Cory Spinks. That being said – it’s on this rare occasion that I was able to slow Zab down enough to secure this interview and share it with you - the fortunate readers and supporters that have held him down since his rise to fame, notoriety and quite possibly – a return to world domination..
Zab is presently in Vegas training for his next knockout win so catching up with him was a feat all in itself. For those that don’t yet comprehend the magnitude of what I just wrote – allow me to repeat myself: I was able to get the man slash iconic boxing legend, “Super” Judah on the phone to chop it up with me for several minutes, albeit his verrrrry busy schedule in order to secure the cover story for none other than the soon to be worldwide (drum roll please…) Grapevine Magazine! Real recognize real and being that Zab also represents the planet of Brooklyn much like myself, I knew I had to crank out a metaphorical “homerun” exclusive interview to the readers in order to land the cover story!
Prelude to the interview… Allow me to paint the proverbial picture of what almost never transpired:
Me: “So Ms. Davina Perez (Zab’s publicist of Venus Management Company), do you think Zab will allow me to interview him for this up-and-coming magazine? I think he would be the perfect individual to put it on the map. He is a stand up guy in the community and that is exactly what this magazine is looking for in its subject matter and overall storyline. I can promise you nothing but integrity and I won’t “sneak attack” him with any questions that will damage his rep or clown him in any type of way.”
Davina: “Lemme see. He’s got a fight coming up and he’s out in Vegas right now training for it.”
Me: “Well, I appreciate whatever you can make happen. See what you can do. If you could just give me about 10-15 minutes of his time… I promise the interview will be nothing but classy.”
Davina: “I won’t make any promises. I’ll get back to you.” Now most of the time when someone says, “I’ll get back to you”, you’re most often already doomed from the start. But I wasn’t talking to just anybody. From the initial conversation, I was able to detect the level of class that makes up the camp of Zab Judah. Ms. Perez reminded me that he was in the West Coast and to call him at exactly 4pm (EST). A couple of hours went by and I was again contacted by his publicist: “David, are you there.”
Me: “I’m here.” Ms. Perez again asked the question. But not to me.: “Zab – are you there?” JACKPOT! I immediately recognized his voice from several years ago (I reminded Zab that I previously met him at a celebrity sponsorship event that him and I was hosting at The Salvation Army in NYC). I immediately thanked him for taking the time to do this interview with me and promised that my line of questioning would not infringe on his privacy or go on for too long so that he could immediately get back to his upcoming fight. Instead, I subtly requested that we continue part 2 of this interview at a later date upon his return to Brooklyn which Zab graciously accepted.
THE INTERVIEW… David L.
(DL): Do you have a preference in your fighting weight?
Zab Judah (ZJ): Nahh, no preference. Hmmm… I guess if I did, it would be Junior Welterweight. I began my career at this weight and won the majority of my titles at this weight. But overall – it don’t really matter to me. Proper training takes precedence over everything so more than anything else, I stay on top of my training habits and how I take care of my body. I can fight comfortably at any weight.
DL: What is your most memorable fight? Why?
ZJ: Probably winning the undisputed Welterweight title in St. Louis when I beat Cory Spinks. That was a special moment for me. I mean I was young, raw, you know? Yeah – that was probably the fight that stands out most for me. Every fight is special in its own way, but that one got me to where I am today.
DL: Any pre-fight rituals? Superstitions? You know how some athletes might have to wear a pair of lucky socks or something? Or they may have a favorite pre-game meal? Wassup with you?
ZJ: No rituals. No superstitions. I just say my prayer to the Lord Saviour, Jesus Christ – that’s all. As long as I have Christ in my life, everything works itself out. I’ve never been a big believer in superstitions or any thing like that. I’m very confident before I walk into a boxing ring because I train my body so hard. I feel that as long as I train hard, everything will go in my direction. I’m focused. I go out there in the ring and let my hard work do the talking for me. That’s why I don’t get into the whole “superstitious” thing. For me – nothing but hard work and practice. That’s my ritual!
DL: What would the casual fan be surprised about you? Gimme something that you can give the reader into the private life of Zab Judah. Something most people have no idea about you.
ZJ: (Thinks for a moment…) I would say the casual fan would be surprised that I ride dirt bikes. Love them! Yeah that’s what I love doing during my off time. Right now it’s about my upcoming fight, but when I have that down time, I ride.
DL: With respect to Father’s Day, how do you spend time with your kids and family? And does your hectic training schedule get in the way?
ZJ: Well you know none of that even matters cause anyone that knows me knows that my family travels EVERYWHERE with me! I don’t travel without my family! They’re at EVERY fight! I’m big on education and I have a daughter graduating from High School so I have to be mindful of the fact that school is priority. Where ever I train and fight, they are all nearby.
DL: What is your favorite location to fight at? Why?
ZJ: I don’t really have a favorite location. I can fight anywhere. No pressure whatsoever! It doesn’t even matter at the end of the day. I can fight in St. Louis, matter of fact – that’s one of my favorite places just because I’m like a hometown hero there as well! I can fight in front of my own hometown in Brooklyn to Vegas to wherever. Matter of fact, they are soon doing something in Brooklyn (Barclay Center) so look for me there as well.
DL: Upcoming events? Final thoughts?
ZJ: I had an organization previously called Fight For Life, in which I sponsored several holiday events for kids and I mentored them about accomplishing their goals and staying out of trouble. I am very proud of a program I’m involved in presently through my foundation. It’s an anti-bullying program through my Zab Judah Cares foundation in which I educate the youth on bullying awareness and how to prevent bullying in the school system. This organization focuses on helping children see the dangers of bullying and my goal is to teach children to become friendlier with one another and improve their socialization skills. You know – bullying is a serious topic right now. We are doing a five city tour in the near future in Minnesota, Ft. Worth, TX, Dallas, TX and Detroit just to name some of the cities. My overall goal is to make kids know that there is someone out here that cares about them because I was bullied as a youngster and I understand how it feels to be bullied. Yeah – big things are happening right now.
Post Interview: Zab continues to use boxing as a tool for kids and young adults to stay out of trouble in the streets of Brooklyn as he himself did when he was younger. Zab back in the day would often go to the local gym with his mother and father, both former martial arts champions in their own right. Both parents continue to play pivotal roles in Zab’s career and even to this day, he looks to them for guidance and direction. The family believed that if they trained all of their children from a young age, they would become champions in the ring… and in life – and it paid off. Zab’s present foundation, Zab Judah Cares focus is to mentor young children and teach them that bullying is not a nice way to treat peers and that bullying can eventually lead to the bullied child to feeling helpless, intimidated, and possibly even leading to suicide.
Zab plans to set up a hotline for kids to contact him and his organization if they are feeling intimidated and helpless and needs someone to talk to and he will also be available to come out to different schools and organizations to discuss “bullying and its negative effects” on all young people. Zab recently visited Moscow, Russia and met with the President. He was treated very well and was impressed with what they had to offer and the great fighters that inhabit the country. Zab was told by the President of Russia he was welcomed back at any time as he continues to develop his international relationships in the boxing industry because he wants to acknowledge the skills of boxers in America and internationally abroad. This will undoubtedly bring him one step closer to becoming the global icon he looks forward to becoming down the stretch of his career. Presently, Zab will be making his acting debut in a movie called “The Obama Effect” because of its interesting premise (more on that at a later time). The movie features such prominent actors such as Charles S. Dutton, Meagan Good, Vanessa Bell Calloway, Emilio Rivera and Katt Williams.
You can log onto Youtube to check out the trailer of “The Obama Effect”. Also check out Judah Bros. Boxing gym in Brooklyn at 400 Liberty Avenue where Zab’s father, Yoel trains young men and women to become future champions and where Zab trains when he is in New York. I promised Zab I would keep our first interview (of a future part 2 series) short and informal so as to not put any damper on his present training regimen, but trust – I will put it down even that much more when we follow up in the near future. For now – enjoy the proverbial “appetizer” and get ready for the best to come… and remember: Men lie. Women lie. Great interviews speak 4 themselves! Nuff said.
Follow David L. on Twitter at: @almightydavidl
David L. is also the author of Over Your Dead Body, My Life Is A Movie, Chalk Outline Confessions: The Remix & Represent. All David L. titles can be purchased via his website at: www.totalpackagepublications.com. All David L. titles are also available via Kindle & Nook
Thursday, March 26, 2009
My Life Is A Movie - Now Available On Amazon.com!
If you have read any of David L.'s titles (Over Your Dead Body, Chalk Outline Confessions), then make sure you purchase your copy of his latest title - My LIfe Is A Movie...
Where? www.totalpackagepublications.com or your favorite mom & pop store. Author website is paypal verified and books are autographed & shipped out within 24 hours...count on it!
My Life Is A Movie is now available on: www.amazon.com!!
Where? www.totalpackagepublications.com or your favorite mom & pop store. Author website is paypal verified and books are autographed & shipped out within 24 hours...count on it!
My Life Is A Movie is now available on: www.amazon.com!!
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Oprah is next...count on it!!
As always...tell me what you think. Personally, I think it's some of my best stuff!
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Friday, January 2, 2009
New Novel! New Review!! Check It Out!!!
My Life Is A Movie by David L. ( 4 out of 5 stars) ****
Kayla Brown is a 17-year-old high school senior who believes the world revolves around her. With the senior spring dance and graduation fast approaching, Kayla has a lot on her plate. Things get complicated when Kayla gets involved with a man that's much older than her named Ellis. Everyone but Kayla thinks there's something suspicious about him including her best friend Tamika. Tamika is focusing on getting good grades and going to college. Tamika is also involved in a relationship with the high school's star athlete Donovan. A series of tragedies pushes Kayla and Tamika into an adult world that neither is ready for. They will have to find out if their friendship will truly stand the test of time. My Life Is A Movie is a poignant story by David L. David L takes readers into the sometimes confusing world of a teen growing up in Brooklyn 1988. From Jordache jeans to pinstripe Adidas, you will definitely be transported back to a time where things were usually less complicated. Kayla and Tamika are very different and likeable characters that readers will be able to relate to on some level. There are plenty of valuable lessons and real consequences in this novel that people should pay close attention to. This story also shows how making the wrong choices early in life can have a dramatic impact on one's future. My Life Is A Movie is an edgy, cautionary tale that will keep you glued to the pages until the very end. David L has once again penned a novel that is thought-provoking and entertaining!
Reviewed by Radiah Hubbert for Urban Reviews
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